What I Learned from Breastfeeding

Last night I was at work, and I had to rush back home because my newborn son was screaming at the top of his lungs. He wasn’t ill nor his diaper wet, he wanted mommy and her natural feeding capabilities (if you know what I mean). I was trying to both bottle feed and breastfeed, but as I quickly learned, the breast is more favorable to a baby. Believe it or not, the topic of breastfeeding is controversial. One would think that something as natural as feeding her own child should be the most welcomed, understood subject. But not so in this working mom society. It’s almost shunned upon in a way. Breastfeeding is showing me how much a baby needs it’s mom and the comfort/nurture we bring. Babies are forced to be away from this safe haven when mom has to work . This is highly accepted among adults. But what about our children?

Why I’m Homeschooling my Children

Homeschooling? I know some of you are like “girl you crazy” but I decided that I want to give homeschooling a try. I’ve started reading aloud to my kids and doing activities with them and I see benefits already. I get to teach behavioral skills and allow them to volunteer at the library, under my supervision. Believe it or not kids need so much guidance and structure and the best people to get it from are parents. We are God-given instructors. Teachers in the school system are good but nothing compares to the luxury of having a parent for a teacher. The genuine love they feel from the parent motivates kids to learn and do their best. I notice that my oldest is a hands on learner. She loves to help and volunteer and is good at math. My middle child is an excellent reader and it just comes natural to her without much help from me. I’m learning what my children’s strengths are and focusing on those more instead of pressuring them to get better at their weaknesses, which can be very stressful for young children. So with the help of God I will continue this new journey and see where it leads, with what I’m seeing so far I believe I’ve made the right choice.

How I deal with Motherhood

I enjoy my children. I like dressing them up, teaching them things, and listening to how intelligent they are. But, the reality is, it is one of the most (probably the most) challenging job for a woman. The hardest thing about it is almost all of your attention and care is toward your children when they are young. There is barely time for yourself throughout the day. The way I’ve come to look at motherhood is as an investment. The more time you spend teaching and being with your kids, the better teenagers and ultimately adults they will be. Just think about it. If I spend time teaching my kids how to clean, give them chores, show them how to fear God, correct them when they’re wrong the better the return I will receive from their behavior and actions when they are older. Even if I’ve done all that I could do as a parent and my kids still behave different from what I’ve taught, I can be guilt free because I’ve done my part. But the sooner you teach your child the more it will stick with them throughout adulthood. The bible says, “train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is older he will not depart from it.” So ladies look at motherhood as an investment for your kids future and not always as a difficult burdensome task. It’s also an investment for you because the more prepared your kids are for adulthood, the more you will be able to relax in the future. God bless!!

God is Faithful

One thing that I truly know about God is that He is a man of His word. No if ands or buts. I recently just reconciled my marriage, and everything that I believed God for has happened. Somehow I knew the blessings of the Lord would follow me after I obeyed His voice to come back to my husband. God has blessed me and my husband to become pregnant wih our first boy! There are many other things that we have prayed for that are happeing as well and we are truly greatful. Putting God’s word at the forefront of my life has been challenging. This is because everything in His Word (the bible) has to be taken by faith and can sometimes seem impossible with life’s circumstances. I can honestly say that I have and am still trying His word out and it is working wonders in my life. Try it out for yourself!!!

A Young Marriage Restored

I am shocked and amazed right now. I cannot believe that me and my husband are making things work, getting along, and developing more passion for each other. Just four years ago I left him and never thought I’d look back. But, God saw otherwise.

I had lost all my attraction and feelings for him, and I assumed it had to be over. But in a marriage covenant even loosing attraction is not a valid reason to leave. Attractions, believe it or not can come, leave, and come back again. This is what I am now learning. I am also learning that marriage is sacred and there is a special blessing on a marriage relationship. God takes marriage very seriously and is willing to help with any problem in marriage, if only we would take our problems to Him through prayer. A lot of people give up on their marriage without giving God (the creator/expert on marriage if you will) the chance to intervene and help fix problems.

…To be Continued

 

What I’ve learned about Marriage

I’ve learned that marriage is not just something you could throw away because of “irreconcilable differences”. I’ve learned that the benefits of marriage outweigh the problems that have to be worked through in it. The “building” in marriage is what’s to be cherished. The family that is created from it and the lifelong partnership are miracles to behold. I’ve learned that God is the glue and His Word can be used as a guide to keep a marriage afloat. I’ve learned that the world’s view of marriage has been tainted, possibly by an outside force that hates anything established by God (Satan). I’ve learned that almost any marriage is repairable. I’ve learned and am still learning that marriage is good.

When I First Started Growing out my Relaxer

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Wow! It all went by so fast. It was hard to believe that I could reach the length I’m at now. Yes people, I’m talking about my hair, my lovely mane. It all started around August 2011 when I stopped using a relaxer. It was the best choice I’ve made so far about my personal appearance. Don’t get me wrong I was scared. I had a relaxer all my life. But change is good. The beginning was a bit stressful dealing with two different hair textures, thick coarse hair at the roots and thin straight hair at the ends. With patience and care I can say I’ve arrived. I’m a certified naturalista!

If I could do it all over I would have purchased lots of conditioner. It helps with transitioning hair. My comb slides through my hair easily with conditioner. It would have also helped with the two different textures. So if you’re a “newbie” to this I think you should stock up on conditioners. It’ll save you a lot of headache and frustration. Also don’t be afraid to get your hair wet. I honestly think keeping my hair wet and moisturized helped it to grow. Dry hair breaks easily so think moisture, moisture, moisture! I encouraged anyone who wants to grow out their relaxer to keep going and don’t give up. Pretty soon you’ll be loving the compliments and enjoying your long locs. Good luck!!

Dealing with Distractions

Usually when a person has made up his/her mind to do something one thing is for certain, their will always be distractions. I’ve noticed that in my life whenever I say “God I wanna be closer to you” there’s always a distraction lurking, waiting to try and throw me off course. But I have power over distractions. I have the power to choose what I let distract me. I can be a victim of letting distractions stop my goals or I can say things like “No, I cant hang out with this person or this crowd because they will bring distractions”,  “No I cant do this or do that because this has the potential to throw me off”. So I encourage you to choose what you do and who you hang with wisely because everyone that crosses your path is not there to help you, but often to test you.- God Bless

Try This Out: A New Daily Routine

Its 7am. You awaken to a text from your child’s father that reads: “I cant come to pick up my son this weekend.” He gives no explanation. You are so mad now because that was your chance to get a break and have some “me time.” You start your day off with this situation being your fuel. You post an aggressive Facebook status stating how “some men ain’t nothing.” You dwell on this for almost the rest of the day.

Lets take a few steps back…

What if you awaken to the text, get a little angry, but afterwards go and spend some time with God in prayer and meditate on all the good things He has done in your life. Allow Him to take care of your problems. 1 Peter 5:7 says “Casting all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.” Doing this can help you avoid letting your problems consume you and your day. You can be filled with peace and joy.

Now how about adding this payer and meditation as your daily routine. Get in a quiet place alone without distraction and focus on the goodness of the Lord and allow your spirit to be lifted. You could go throughout the day uplifting others instead of worrying about your life and your problems. The more you do this the more “unbothered” you will become by things that usually irritates you. May God bless you on this new journey!

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From Super Curly to Voluminous Straight

Hello guys!

I want to show you all how I got my super curly kinky hair silky straight without a lot of hassle. beforeafter

First of all, my hair did not use to come out this good after flat ironing until I started using conditioner faithfully. My routine consists of washing my hair in the shower, only using shampoo once a week or whenever I decide to straighten it. I mostly use conditioner, lots of it, until all my hair is covered. Dividing my hair into about 4 sections, I use my fingers to comb thru my hair while the conditioner is in it. When I feel that I can run my hands straight through with no problems then I’m finished because my hair is tangle free.

I don’t like my hair to stay in a dry state for too long. Why? Because my hair loves moisture so I wet my hair in the shower often (don’t be afraid of water ladies) I love using oils, creams, and conditioners because they help keep my hair moisturized.

After washing and detangling I blow dry and flat iron my hair…using a soft bristle brush to help in flat ironing process to get my hair as straight as possible. I also use high heat when blow drying and flat ironing to get my hair straight.

And one more thing….

The conditioner I used was VO5. It was only 75cents.